Slow Burn Syllabus
Module 1: Turn-On & Eros Defined By You
Workshop 1: ABCs of Trauma-Informed Care
Key Teachings:
Trauma impacts the nervous system’s ability to experience pleasure and safety.
Healing requires attunement, body-based approaches, consent, and doability.
The importance of small, sustainable steps rather than cathartic breakthroughs.
Reflection: Where have I been taught to override my body’s no? How can I practice micro-moments of attunement?
Practice: Whole Body Exhale & Noticing Sensations Exercise.
Workshop 2: Doability + Trust, Resonance Practice & Seeds of Desire
Key Teachings:
Desire is like planting seeds—it unfolds in its own timing, without force.
The body’s trust is built through consistency, not intensity.
Resonance practice as a way to listen to the body’s yes, no, and maybe.
Reflection: What desires feel safe and natural to express? Where do I feel pressure or urgency?
Practice: Tracking Micro-Moments of Desire.
Workshop 3: Self-Trust & Safety (ALI Practice)
Key Teachings:
Self-trust is the foundation of erotic sovereignty.
The ALI framework (Acknowledge, Legitimize, Integrate) helps process emotions without getting overwhelmed.
Emotional safety = being with what is, without needing to fix or suppress.
Reflection: How do I know when I am safe in my body? What shifts when I validate my emotions?
Practice: ALI Process for Emotional Integration.
Module 2: The Physiology of Trauma Resolution
Workshop 4: Resourcing & Amplifying Health + Momentums of Trauma vs. Resiliency
Key Teachings:
The body moves in momentums—either towards trauma loops or towards resilience.
Small, consistent shifts are more sustainable than radical changes.
The cruise ship metaphor—turning is slow, but intentional shifts lead to transformation.
Reflection: What small shifts can I make toward resilience today?
Practice: Creating a Whole Body Exhale List.
Workshop 5: Momentums Exercise + Physiology of Trauma (Part 1)
Key Teachings:
Trauma responses (fight, flight, freeze, appease) store unfinished survival energy.
Identifying hyper/hypo-arousal states helps create self-awareness.
Healing happens through slow discharge, not pushing through triggers.
Reflection: How does my body respond under stress? What helps me shift into regulation?
Practice: Noticing & Naming Survival Patterns.
Workshop 6: Neuroception + Embodied Emergency Responses
Key Teachings:
The body constantly scans for cues of safety/danger (neuroception).
When safety is disrupted, emergency responses take over.
Healing requires re-establishing safety before engaging erotic energy.
Reflection: What external/internal cues signal safety for me?
Practice: Orienting Practice for Nervous System Safety.
Module 3: Erotic Embodiment for the Self
Workshop 7: Embodied Emergency Responses
Key Teachings:
Trauma responses are adaptive survival strategies.
The freeze response can be misinterpreted as a lack of desire.
Moving out of freeze requires slow, body-led reactivation.
Reflection: How do I experience freeze in my erotic life?
Practice: Shaking & Releasing Tension Exercise.
Workshop 8: Trauma to Turn-On Map + Unshaming the Erotic
Key Teachings:
Erotic energy is a natural extension of health.
Desire and pleasure are not rewards, but birthrights.
Unshaming turn-on means releasing the idea that pleasure needs justification.
Reflection: What desires have I hidden due to shame?
Practice: Drawing Your Erotic Blueprint.
Workshop 9: Blueprint of Health & Pleasure
Key Teachings:
The Pleasure Activist mindset—finding pleasure in all areas of life.
Tracking micro-moments of pleasure helps retrain the body to receive.
Sensation precedes story—feeling pleasure doesn’t need an intellectual explanation.
Reflection: Where do I already feel pleasure in my life? How can I expand it?
Practice: Naming 5 Pleasure Moments Per Day.
Module 4: Erotic Embodiment with Other
Workshop 11: Sovereignty + Boundaries
Key Takeaways:
Sovereignty as attuned discernment – Navigating relational dynamics with choice and presence.
Gatekeeping as a healthy erotic skill – Tracking needs and limits, negotiating relationally.
Flimsy vs. Impenetrable Boundaries – Over-giving and defensive withdrawal as survival patterns.
Boundary repair as a somatic process – Repatterning past violations through nervous system healing.
Overall Reflection on Slow Burn:
Slow Burn is a reclamation of self-trust, power, and integrity in intimacy and relationships.
Unlike mainstream sexuality work that emphasizes openness and surrender, Slow Burn equally honors containment, discernment, and boundaries.
Energetic sovereignty is about reciprocal flow, not depletion.
Reflection: Where do I struggle with boundaries? What helps me maintain them?
Practice: Mapping Your Energy & Boundaries.