Slow Burn Syllabus

Module 1: Turn-On & Eros Defined By You

Workshop 1: ABCs of Trauma-Informed Care

Key Teachings:

  • Trauma impacts the nervous system’s ability to experience pleasure and safety.

  • Healing requires attunement, body-based approaches, consent, and doability.

  • The importance of small, sustainable steps rather than cathartic breakthroughs.

Reflection: Where have I been taught to override my body’s no? How can I practice micro-moments of attunement?

Practice: Whole Body Exhale & Noticing Sensations Exercise.


Workshop 2: Doability + Trust, Resonance Practice & Seeds of Desire

Key Teachings:

  • Desire is like planting seeds—it unfolds in its own timing, without force.

  • The body’s trust is built through consistency, not intensity.

  • Resonance practice as a way to listen to the body’s yes, no, and maybe.

Reflection: What desires feel safe and natural to express? Where do I feel pressure or urgency?

Practice: Tracking Micro-Moments of Desire.


Workshop 3: Self-Trust & Safety (ALI Practice)

Key Teachings:

  • Self-trust is the foundation of erotic sovereignty.

  • The ALI framework (Acknowledge, Legitimize, Integrate) helps process emotions without getting overwhelmed.

  • Emotional safety = being with what is, without needing to fix or suppress.

Reflection: How do I know when I am safe in my body? What shifts when I validate my emotions?

Practice: ALI Process for Emotional Integration.


Module 2: The Physiology of Trauma Resolution

Workshop 4: Resourcing & Amplifying Health + Momentums of Trauma vs. Resiliency

Key Teachings:

  • The body moves in momentums—either towards trauma loops or towards resilience.

  • Small, consistent shifts are more sustainable than radical changes.

  • The cruise ship metaphor—turning is slow, but intentional shifts lead to transformation.

Reflection: What small shifts can I make toward resilience today?

Practice: Creating a Whole Body Exhale List.


Workshop 5: Momentums Exercise + Physiology of Trauma (Part 1)

Key Teachings:

  • Trauma responses (fight, flight, freeze, appease) store unfinished survival energy.

  • Identifying hyper/hypo-arousal states helps create self-awareness.

  • Healing happens through slow discharge, not pushing through triggers.

Reflection: How does my body respond under stress? What helps me shift into regulation?

Practice: Noticing & Naming Survival Patterns.


Workshop 6: Neuroception + Embodied Emergency Responses

Key Teachings:

  • The body constantly scans for cues of safety/danger (neuroception).

  • When safety is disrupted, emergency responses take over.

  • Healing requires re-establishing safety before engaging erotic energy.

Reflection: What external/internal cues signal safety for me?

Practice: Orienting Practice for Nervous System Safety.


Module 3: Erotic Embodiment for the Self

Workshop 7: Embodied Emergency Responses

Key Teachings:

  • Trauma responses are adaptive survival strategies.

  • The freeze response can be misinterpreted as a lack of desire.

  • Moving out of freeze requires slow, body-led reactivation.

Reflection: How do I experience freeze in my erotic life?

Practice: Shaking & Releasing Tension Exercise.


Workshop 8: Trauma to Turn-On Map + Unshaming the Erotic

Key Teachings:

  • Erotic energy is a natural extension of health.

  • Desire and pleasure are not rewards, but birthrights.

  • Unshaming turn-on means releasing the idea that pleasure needs justification.

Reflection: What desires have I hidden due to shame?

Practice: Drawing Your Erotic Blueprint.


Workshop 9: Blueprint of Health & Pleasure

Key Teachings:

  • The Pleasure Activist mindset—finding pleasure in all areas of life.

  • Tracking micro-moments of pleasure helps retrain the body to receive.

  • Sensation precedes story—feeling pleasure doesn’t need an intellectual explanation.

Reflection: Where do I already feel pleasure in my life? How can I expand it?

Practice: Naming 5 Pleasure Moments Per Day.


Module 4: Erotic Embodiment with Other

Workshop 11: Sovereignty + Boundaries

Key Takeaways:

  • Sovereignty as attuned discernment – Navigating relational dynamics with choice and presence.

  • Gatekeeping as a healthy erotic skill – Tracking needs and limits, negotiating relationally.

  • Flimsy vs. Impenetrable Boundaries – Over-giving and defensive withdrawal as survival patterns.

  • Boundary repair as a somatic process – Repatterning past violations through nervous system healing.

Overall Reflection on Slow Burn:

  • Slow Burn is a reclamation of self-trust, power, and integrity in intimacy and relationships.

  • Unlike mainstream sexuality work that emphasizes openness and surrender, Slow Burn equally honors containment, discernment, and boundaries.

  • Energetic sovereignty is about reciprocal flow, not depletion.

Reflection: Where do I struggle with boundaries? What helps me maintain them?

Practice: Mapping Your Energy & Boundaries.