Key Themes from the Erotic Safety Masterclass

  1. Redefining Safety in an Erotic Context

    • Safety isn’t just about avoiding what feels bad—it’s about having the capacity to hold more of what feels good.

    • How traditional ideas of safety often focus on protection and avoidance rather than expansion and presence.

  2. Understanding Nervous System Responses in Intimacy

    • Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn as adaptive responses in erotic dynamics.

    • Why numbness, shut-down, or discomfort during intimacy can be a body-led response rather than a personal failing.

    • Differentiating between a true "no" and a nervous system reaction that inhibits desire.

  3. Attunement & Self-Trust as Foundations for Erotic Healing

    • How to develop a deeper relationship with your own cues, needs, and desires.

    • Trusting what arises without trying to force yourself into a different state.

    • Pacing as a crucial part of erotic reclamation—allowing expansion without overwhelm.

  4. The Role of Pleasure & Desire in Safety

    • The misconception that safety means “never feeling discomfort.”

    • How erotic safety is not just about protection, but about feeling safe enough to open, risk, and explore.

    • Learning to titrate pleasure—how to allow small doses of enjoyment when deeper intimacy feels too much.

  5. Boundaries vs. Barriers

    • Understanding when self-protection is necessary vs. when it becomes a rigid pattern that keeps connection out.

    • How to create boundaries that support your system without reinforcing avoidance.

    • The difference between self-sourced safety and partner-dependent safety.

  6. How Past Trauma Affects Erotic Expression

    • Why unresolved trauma patterns can lead to unpredictable, changing desires.

    • The need for gentleness and patience when working through erotic healing.

    • How erotic work isn't about fixing yourself but about honoring what your body needs.

  7. Relational Dynamics & Communication

    • How to articulate needs without feeling shame.

    • The challenges of speaking up for your pleasure when past conditioning has silenced you.

    • Learning to navigate intimacy with partners who may not have the same level of awareness.